Why comparing yourself to others can be bad for you.

Comparing yourself to others only steals your joy and leaves you miserable. As a little girl, growing up was tough. The constant comparison among siblings  at home was taunting  especially when you have a sister that looks exactly like you and wanted exactly the same toys and clothes you got lol. , as if that was not bad enough, I had to deal with a much more bigger audience. The super cool kids at school, yeah , we all had that one cool kid at school that no matter how hard we tried to look and act cool, we never could measure up, so we thought. and well we tried even more, then comparison crept in and was here to stay. Fast forward to becoming a grown woman, comparison took a whole new meaning, facial structure, waist size, boob size etc and with the rise of social media, things just got out of control, the Instagram feeds and blogs of all these supposedly super cool bloggers are  enough reasons to send anyone to a permanent depressive state lol. Sounds familiar, well, you are not alone, we all struggle with some sort of comparison at some point in our lives  though on varying degrees, with some more than other.  Here are a few reasons why comparing yourself to others is can be bad  for you;

Comparisons are always not fair.  Most times we are comparing the worst of us against the best of others that we see. This is often the part where social media creeps in and leaves us miserable.  Yes she looks perfect on Instagram, Facebook or Pinterest, but you have to remember that no one ever puts out their worse out for you or me to see. So taking your out of bed face and comparing it to a well made up, photographed under the most perfect lighting and retouched face is not only unfair to you but can be very damaging to your self esteem.

There is never an end to comparison. It just never ends, there is always that one person who you think is more attractive, more successful, has a better blog or a better Instagram feed etc. So no matter what level of success you manage to attain, there will be  someone you ´d always find a reason to compete with. Definitely not healthy for you.

Resentment. You ll be shocked by how far some people can go with this. Comparing yourself to others most often results to resentment towards yourself and others. Why can’t my hair be fuller like hers? my waistline be slimmer like hers ? etc. sounds familiar; you most certainly can develop hate towards yourself or others when you spend time comparing yourself to other people.

You focus on the wrong people. Comparison lets you focus on the wrong people when the only person you should be focusing on is YOU. You spend your time, energy and resources (that could be used to elevate your life in so many ways )on people that are not worth it.

It deprive us of joy. Yes boo, comparison has all that super power to deprive us of joy and leaves us in a permanent hateful and unhappy place.

Guilty of comparison and want to find out ways to overcome it? Stay tune for part 2 of this post.


Love x Light

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  • Reply
    Gloria Jaja
    March 16, 2016 at 1:14 pm

    You are so right. We should just learn to love ourselves and be the very best we can be. Remember that life is not a contest. Only You can be You#selflove

    • Reply
      March 16, 2016 at 1:28 pm

      Thank you for reading Gloria.

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    March 16, 2016 at 10:38 pm

    I haven’t seen a passage in the Bible where Jesus Christ encouraged us to compare with another.
    Covetousness this the fruit of comparison rising from Fear and the root cause is condemnation.
    When you don’t know you are loved by God and love yourself irrespective of what’s going on around.
    Comparison will not be needed to validate self
    You nailed it. I will be reading this article to remind myself. Yes we live nowadays the sublime message to compare is pushed by the media and even at work it’s becoming a dog eat dog world.

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      March 17, 2016 at 8:40 am

      Thank you for your thoughtful contribution G.

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